Is phone sex cheating?

The line between what constitutes cheating and what doesn’t is often hazy and becomes even more complicated when you start analysing the scenarios in the grey areas. Consequently, every couple has its own idea on the definition of cheating, and some often try to come to an understanding of the rules that constitute fidelity in the relationship. But the question still remains: is phone sex cheating?

In an attempt to answer this controversial question, you may have to consider the following fundamental questions.

Can phone sex lead to actual cheating?


Just like smoking or drinking, phone sex may become so addictive that a person may really forget about actual cheating. You can argue that people who spend most of their waking moments exchanging flirtatious text messages over the phone may actually have no incentive to cheat on their partners, most of all if they are talking with a mistress, since domination phone sex is something quite different from cheating, given that often there is no sexual intercourse but just domination and humiliation. However, the chats may become so personal and engaging that they may become part of the actual cheating. In such a case, you may wonder whether phone sex caused the infidelity, or whether the cheating motive has always been in the mind of the person. It is more like pornography, where some people may actually go out of their way to find a side kick to practice out the sensational moves in those blue videos. It may happen especially if the person has a rather conservative partner. But to some, pornography is an end to itself – they would just fall asleep after watching a particularly mind-boggling porn movie.

Can phone sex prevent cheating?


While sex over the phone with a known partner or a perfect stranger may result into infidelity, the reverse may also be true for some cases. If you have been stuck with one partner all your life, and feel you could do with a change of then sexual scenery, what better way to perfectly safe sex than a hot phone chat with an invisible ally? You may just satisfy your crazy craving without actually having to step out of the matrimonial bed and engaging in an affair, thanks to the connection between your phone and that of a sultry young lady or man. In this way, you can safely blow off any sexual steam without hurting anyone. Arguably, if you have a bed mate who believes any sex position other than the age-old missionary is the work of the devil, you would sure need to find some excitement on the side. Phone sex may allow the liberties to be more adventurous and explore the wild desires without being physically unfaithful to your rather laid back partner. That is the special case of shemale phone sex, for example, where men search something that would be impossibile to have fulfilled in the average man-woman relationship. Or in the instance of granny phone sex too: how could any woman be jealous if her hubby speak on the phone with an old granny? However, these desires and the temptation to try them out may just push you over the edge, and drive you into looking for real-time experience.

Sweeping view towards phone sex


Men really don’t think so much about phone sex and infidelity because the line between faithfulness and unfaithfulness tends to be rather hazy in their psyche. Men wouldn’t really consider sublime sex over the phone as cheating because it doesn’t threaten their territories, as would be the case in real life. They will have no qualms getting those phone numbers, or seeing them in their partner’s phones. Nevertheless, it may boil down to a case of self-preservation as most of these numbers target men rather than women. Interestingly, a majority of the male counterparts wouldn’t be too happy at the idea of their wives or girlfriends hitting up with old buddies and engaging in steam sex over the phone. Essentially, as to whether phone sex constitutes cheating, it would depend on the level of jealousy on the part of the men, and whether they have engaged in it themselves, and also if the man is looking for a woman of the same age of his wife or if he's looking for younger girls, which could mean that he just wants to find someone who makes him feel younger, to recall his youth. As for women, anything that takes away the minds of their husbands or sexual partners would definitely amount to cheating.

As to whether phone sex amounts to cheating, it may depend on how individual couples approach the whole issue of infidelity and how the determine what constitutes cheating and what doesn’t.